You know you’re not supposed to keep score. You know communication is important. You’ve probably read the books, listened to the podcasts, maybe even tried couples therapy before.
And somehow you’re still having that fight.
Maybe intimacy has become awkward, painful, or nonexistent. Maybe becoming parents changed your relationship in ways no one warned you about. Maybe trauma keeps showing up in moments that should feel safe.
Whatever brought you here, you don’t have to figure it out alone.
I provide trauma-informed couples therapy in Charlotte and the DMV for people who want more than better communication—they want to understand why they keep getting stuck and how to move forward together.
Questions Couples Often Ask Before Starting Therapy
How do I know if we need couples therapy?
Many couples wait until they feel hopeless before reaching out, but therapy can help long before a relationship reaches a crisis. If you find yourselves having the same arguments, feeling emotionally distant, struggling with intimacy, or wondering how to reconnect, couples therapy can help you better understand each other and build healthier patterns.
What happens during couples therapy?
Your first sessions focus on understanding your relationship history, your strengths, and the challenges bringing you to therapy. Together we’ll identify the patterns keeping you stuck and develop practical ways to improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional and physical connection.
What if my partner doesn’t want therapy?
It’s very common for partners to have different levels of interest in therapy. If your partner is hesitant, we can talk about what’s making therapy feel difficult and discuss next steps. Sometimes one conversation about the process can reduce uncertainty.
How long does couples therapy take?
This is entirely dependent on you and your partner. Some couples like to tackle acute issues and get on with their lives, while other couples enjoy the accountability a therapist provides. Whatever your preference, my goal is to arm you with practical skills to use in or out of sessions.
Can couples therapy help after infidelity?
There is always hope for movement and growth in a relationship. Couples therapy can help shift things more smoothly, even if you’re uncertain about where things will end up.
Your Relationship Doesn’t Have to Stay Stuck
If you’re ready to better understand each other, communicate more effectively, and rebuild connection, I’d be honored to help.
Schedule a consultation today to learn whether we’re a good fit.